Xtremelimits08
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OK i need help and i need it now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
how can i find out if he is cheating without him finding out??????????
how can i find out if he is cheating without him finding out??????????
GIRLS and guys I NEED HELP
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AgentNicBristow
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well, do you actually have evidence he is? or just think he is...
vaughnmyangel
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spy!!! lol no dont do that....ask him? or talk to him? you can usually blatanlty see if someone is lying...or casually hint at it???? maybe that is not such an great idea....
Scarlet Crystal
Bibbity Rabbity
do u think he's cheating?
ask around.
ask around.
feeling_like_a_spy
Cadet
just don't do anything behind his back. it can create stress on your relationship
Scarlet Crystal
Bibbity Rabbity
asking isn't behind his back i'd say. but what do i know?
aliasjgfanaticmv
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Well...if you ask him he can always deny it. Ask his friends....maybe ask the girl you think he's cheating on you with. Or just threaten him ^_^
Aliasgirl47
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i couldn't say anything until you gave more details, sorry...
Aliasgirl47
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it's true, the girl wouldn't lie b/c then she would be being cheated on too, so of course she would be glad to confirm it...aliasjgfanaticmv said:
Scarlet Crystal
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if u know of a suspicious girl pretend to her that u broke up w/ him and then talk w/ her. if she thinks u backed down she'll say anything.Aliasgirl47 said:
aliasjgfanaticmv
Cadet
well actually, if you pretend to break up with him, (lets say she IS the girl if he IS cheating on you) then he probably would have told her that you two broke up. So then wouldn't she be suspicious? Also, I doubt a girl would want to be in a relationship where the guy is dating someone else, so maybe she'd say something anyway. (Yes yes, I know there are women who cheat on their boyfriends or husbands with other men who are involved with other people and they don't carealiasgirl000 said:
just humor me)Scarlet Crystal
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yea. and then my plan wouldn't work.aliasjgfanaticmv said:well actually, if you pretend to break up with him, (lets say she IS the girl if he IS cheating on you) then he probably would have told her that you two broke up. So then wouldn't she be suspicious? Also, I doubt a girl would want to be in a relationship where the guy is dating someone else, so maybe she'd say something anyway. (Yes yes, I know there are women who cheat on their boyfriends or husbands with other men who are involved with other people and they don't carealiasgirl000 said:
UNLESS u make it look sudden and find "evidence" of your point to show the girl. then she would pity you and then later tell you STUFF ^_^ o whatever forget itExistentialist
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I'd say, just ask him. Be direct, but not confrontational. I wouldn't ask his friends... they'd obviously report back to him what you said, and that never has good results. If you think you know the girl who he's cheating with, you could ask her too. But I'd be more than 90% sure before going to her. Unless you're really brave...
I don't want to sound harsh here, but even if your suspicions are false, the fact that you've got the feeling that he's cheating is a problem, 'cause it means that your trust in him is wavering. And, in my opinion and experience, a relationship with little to no trust is detrimental to the health of both people involved. Two summers ago, I went out with this guy who I couldn't really trust (I mean, he gave this female friend of his a massage while I was just sitting there, at this party one of his friends was having... he just left me, all alone, not knowing anyone, while he rubbed the back of this girl for like an HOUR...)... I kept thinking he was cheating on me (probably with massage girl... he never gave me a massage like that! ). I almost went crazy.
I don't want to sound harsh here, but even if your suspicions are false, the fact that you've got the feeling that he's cheating is a problem, 'cause it means that your trust in him is wavering. And, in my opinion and experience, a relationship with little to no trust is detrimental to the health of both people involved. Two summers ago, I went out with this guy who I couldn't really trust (I mean, he gave this female friend of his a massage while I was just sitting there, at this party one of his friends was having... he just left me, all alone, not knowing anyone, while he rubbed the back of this girl for like an HOUR...)... I kept thinking he was cheating on me (probably with massage girl... he never gave me a massage like that!
). I almost went crazy.Xtremelimits08
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ok i asked him to day and he hesitated<can't spell it>
so i asked his friend and he kept like saying stuff but not finishing his sentences!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
he always says he has soccer but i checked and he doesn't.
the only reason i started wondering was because this girl came up and told me she saw him with someone else. But i don't know her very well all i know is that she has a big crush on Jason. and at first i refused to believe it but then i put two and two together and if he was cheating he is doing a very good job at hidding it
can anyone help now???????????
so i asked his friend and he kept like saying stuff but not finishing his sentences!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
he always says he has soccer but i checked and he doesn't.
the only reason i started wondering was because this girl came up and told me she saw him with someone else. But i don't know her very well all i know is that she has a big crush on Jason. and at first i refused to believe it but then i put two and two together and if he was cheating he is doing a very good job at hidding it
can anyone help now???????????
feeling_like_a_spy
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hmmmm.. acting suspicious, eh? (canadian stuff..) well i don't think spying would be good. if he somehow found out, he's going to be mad at you for it, yadda yadda, loooooong story. if he's creating dumb excuses that don't make sense, talk to him. have a "quiet" session with him and discuss things over. and always remember to not lose eye contact with him when talking.
Aliasgirl47
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umm, sorry to say, but it definately sounds like cheating to me...
aliasjgfanaticmv
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I'd ask the girl, and I agree, spying won't help, it'd just make things worse.
Princess Jeanie
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if you even THINK he's cheating, that's a bad sign already...kinda the trust issue thing. i'd first trust that gut feeling. so, you asked him and he lied about the soccer thing? that's not good either. i think that maybe talking to him one more time may be a good idea...other than that, there's not much you can do.
i really hope this turns out good for you, sometimes breaking up and moving on is the best (as much as it hurts)...good luck...
~Princess :king:
i really hope this turns out good for you, sometimes breaking up and moving on is the best (as much as it hurts)...good luck...
~Princess :king:
In my opinion you should sit him down and ask him. Be really serious though, if he sees that it is really bothering you he probably fess up. Tell him that if your relationship is going to last you have to be honest with eachother. Sorry babe but it sounds like he is cheating, of course i don't know him or how he acts around you so your guess is as good as mine. You have to be sure before accusing him of anything though. Good luck sweety, i hope you two work it out.