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Discussion in 'Open Chat' started by AgentNicBristow, Mar 31, 2003.

  1. AgentNicBristow

    AgentNicBristow Rocket Ranger

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    I am one of the few males on this board, and understand that MANY OF YOU are baffled by male behavior and have alot of questions. I will do my best to answer them. whos first? :D
     
  2. GO Syd

    GO Syd Rocket Ranger

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    i can also answer question i am a male
     
  3. Vaughn_Lovah

    Vaughn_Lovah Vaughn's Chin Fondler

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    Alright lets see how you guys do with this.
    If a guy really likes a girl but is terrified of relationships and has never had a girlfriend, why doesnt he just go for it?
     
  4. AgentNicBristow

    AgentNicBristow Rocket Ranger

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    well, because like you said, he is terrified of relationships, and has never had a girlfriend, so he would not know how to deal with it.
     
  5. Vaughn_Lovah

    Vaughn_Lovah Vaughn's Chin Fondler

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    yea but how you go about making the guy a little less terrified hmmmm?
     
  6. GO Syd

    GO Syd Rocket Ranger

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    exactly when certain emotions or situations are unknown to a person they are afraid of them
     
  7. Victoria King

    Victoria King Rocket Ranger

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    i have a question! okay i like this guy and we were talking alot on line and he even asked me out to see a movie but then nothing else was said about then, then a week went by, i asked about the movie and now we have barely talked and ever time i try talking he doesnt say that much(all of our talking is online, but i know him in the real world to not that internet isnt real!LOL,confusing i know!) im completly lost on what to do and i really like him?!any suggestions or insights!?
     
  8. AgentNicBristow

    AgentNicBristow Rocket Ranger

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    make him comfortable when hes around you. make it clear to him that he isnt crazy, and you REALLY ARE coming onto him. make him feel like he is a stud. i know it sounds difficult, but thats the best way to go about it.
     
  9. GO Syd

    GO Syd Rocket Ranger

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    he is more willing to share feelings over the internet maybe he is afraid to see ur reaction to his feelings try slowly slowly socializing and doing more intamite things in public (is he like this when alone with u?)
     
  10. AgentNicBristow

    AgentNicBristow Rocket Ranger

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    okay, he likes you, but he probly feels thing have gotten weird because of the silence. like i suggested before, make it clear to him that you are interested. Its amazing how the talking will pick up after that. :D
     
  11. AgentNicBristow

    AgentNicBristow Rocket Ranger

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    GO syd is right. it is much easier to be frank over the internet than in person. try your best to not make things weird between you two and approach him in person with conversation.
     
  12. Victoria King

    Victoria King Rocket Ranger

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    see the problem is i havent seen him since the summer, long story but in the summer we were together alot and got along really well, not like that but really good friends that flirted alot!lol, and then last month i got his sn and thats where we are now!oh and in between we didnt see each other for like months except i saw him at a football game and he saw me but we were both too afraid to say hi, we later talked about this but quickly moved onto something else, any other suggestions, and yeah i think he might be afraid to see me and i am too but i really want to and im hoping he is too, any other insights?thanks!
     
  13. aliasjgfanaticmv

    aliasjgfanaticmv Rocket Ranger

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    Ok, now I have a question, LMAO!! Why is that my guy friends feel they have a need to protect me? Okay, maybe you can't get inside their heads or anything, but do you have any idea? Because they know I'm perfectly capable of kicking their butts and taking care of myself, yet they don't care. It gets so annoying, because when I try to make friends, JUST friends with other guys, they get all, hey, you hurt her, I'll kill you. I'm like, thanks but no thanks. I just want more friends!!! :mad: Ok,if you can't answer, don't bother. :D
     
  14. GO Syd

    GO Syd Rocket Ranger

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    what is the difference between how u and he are in the summer? maybe u act different or something of where u r in the summer i dont know but nething could affect how open he is
     
  15. AgentNicBristow

    AgentNicBristow Rocket Ranger

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    Conversation is hard after so much time between. MAKE HIM FEEL comfortable around you. if he isnt approaching you with coversation, approach him. If he is shy, then you have to initiate it.
     
  16. Vaughn_Lovah

    Vaughn_Lovah Vaughn's Chin Fondler

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    thanks Nic, I will try that at prom this weekend, and yes he did ask me to prom. :)

    -VL
     
  17. AgentNicBristow

    AgentNicBristow Rocket Ranger

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    He probably thinks of you as a younger sister type. Tell him you dont like it when he does that. he'll back off.
     
  18. AgentNicBristow

    AgentNicBristow Rocket Ranger

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    GOOD LUCK!! :cool:
     
  19. aliasjgfanaticmv

    aliasjgfanaticmv Rocket Ranger

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    Actually, it's not just a he, it's like 3 he's....But, I'll try it anyway! :D Thanks!
     
  20. Victoria King

    Victoria King Rocket Ranger

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    nothing is different i dont think, im still as odd as i was then(and he saw that side definatly i mean i hit him with a shoe and fought him for a piece of crust off pizza, fun times!LOL)i dont know what is different, well here is more info that might help you help me(lol!) he is two years younger then me and when we talked first on line it was like hi tehn bye then the second time we talked it was like six hours!and that carried on for like two weeks then im here with no talking now! i mean we will start talking then he will be like i have to go then put up an away message! and he is still open i mean he told me about his ex-girlfriend which really hurt me!!but oh well!thanks for the help guys!!!
     

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