Okay... this is random, but I really wanted some opinions on my situation.
Yesterday was my 21st birthday. Now before I begin my story, I must tell you all that I have a history of HORRIBLE birthdays. In fact, I cannot recall a single year when something bad didn't happen. Car accident, being hit by a car (and yup, those are two different years), friends fighting, parents forgetting etc etc. This year was no different:
I live in Southern Ontario - I'm here for school. My family is back home in Vancouver. First, my mom forgot to send my card/gifty until yesterday, so it won't be here until next week. My aunt and uncle and more than half of my close friends, forgot entirely. I tried not to let this bug me because my boyfriend had promised me a great night out.... I was looking forward to it all day. Anyway, he left for school in the morning and didn't come back until around 5 (which was 2 hours later than he said he would be gone). We went to a very nice restaurant and had supper. In the middle of dinner, he turns to me and says, "just so you're not in suspense, your gift won't be ready until Saturday." My boyfriend (whom I love to death) has a long history of doing things late, or half assed, or never... so I wasn't at all surprised to hear this. I figured, "well, at least he has started something." Anywhoo, the rest of the evening went off without much of a hitch.
Then this morning, he tells me that he won't be home until after dinner because he needs to go out to shop for my birthday present. I kinda flipped out at him and told him not to bother. :angry: He stormed off. I was angry because he had told me that he had started something and it just wasn't ready yet. It really hurt my feelings because it seems like he just didn't care enough to spend the time planning/organizing so that he could have something for me on my birthday.
I feel like I've always put time and effort into his birthdays (we've been together for 3 years, so that's 3 birthdays); I've never been late, or forgotten. Last year, I surpised him with a party and a PS2. He loved it!
Anyway... the point of my rant is this: was I right to be angry with him? I tend to be a little greedy, and I want to make sure that I'm not being shallow. It really is about the effort, and I don't feel like there was any. So, what do you guys think????
Yesterday was my 21st birthday. Now before I begin my story, I must tell you all that I have a history of HORRIBLE birthdays. In fact, I cannot recall a single year when something bad didn't happen. Car accident, being hit by a car (and yup, those are two different years), friends fighting, parents forgetting etc etc. This year was no different:
I live in Southern Ontario - I'm here for school. My family is back home in Vancouver. First, my mom forgot to send my card/gifty until yesterday, so it won't be here until next week. My aunt and uncle and more than half of my close friends, forgot entirely. I tried not to let this bug me because my boyfriend had promised me a great night out.... I was looking forward to it all day. Anyway, he left for school in the morning and didn't come back until around 5 (which was 2 hours later than he said he would be gone). We went to a very nice restaurant and had supper. In the middle of dinner, he turns to me and says, "just so you're not in suspense, your gift won't be ready until Saturday." My boyfriend (whom I love to death) has a long history of doing things late, or half assed, or never... so I wasn't at all surprised to hear this. I figured, "well, at least he has started something." Anywhoo, the rest of the evening went off without much of a hitch.
Then this morning, he tells me that he won't be home until after dinner because he needs to go out to shop for my birthday present. I kinda flipped out at him and told him not to bother. :angry: He stormed off. I was angry because he had told me that he had started something and it just wasn't ready yet. It really hurt my feelings because it seems like he just didn't care enough to spend the time planning/organizing so that he could have something for me on my birthday.
I feel like I've always put time and effort into his birthdays (we've been together for 3 years, so that's 3 birthdays); I've never been late, or forgotten. Last year, I surpised him with a party and a PS2. He loved it! Anyway... the point of my rant is this: was I right to be angry with him? I tend to be a little greedy, and I want to make sure that I'm not being shallow. It really is about the effort, and I don't feel like there was any. So, what do you guys think????
I'm sorry your Birthday tuned out so badly. I hope you have better in the future. :snorkel: