I have so much to say.
I want to thank everyone who shared their opinions, there were many I didn't agree with but you all really made me think. I know how hard it can be to talk about what you believe and I'm really impressed that this has remained such a civil conversation.
I really want to say how incredible proud I am of
aliasjunkie4ever. I've never met you before (
ldhi: ) but I am so impressed with you. While reading your posts I had to keep reminding myself that you were only 15. I may be more mature than you in age and in life, but you are by far more spiritual mature than me. I have been a christian for about 10 years now. I actually have been going through a time where I haven't really been walking with God, not that I've turned away from Him, but I'm just not trying to get any closer to Him. But that's not the point. I know this is long after the fact of why you posted this, but I still wanted to share my thoughts with you.
I'm 20 and have had two relationships. I didn't have my first kiss until I was 17. A lot of people thought that was weird. I mean I've had more than 2 guys interested me, I've had other oppertunites to date but to me it's not that important. My first boyfriend was a friend of mine. We had been friends for over 2 years. He was the closest guy friend I'd ever had. He actually had wanted to ask me out when we first met, but I was interested in dating at the time, so we just became really good friends. I eventually realized that I had feelings for him as more than a friend. We both admitted our feelings to each other, but he didn't do anything more. I was very much of the mind that it was the boys job to ask the girl out. So we spend many months flirting, sometimes holding hands, and whenever all my friends would get together and watch movies we would sit together on the couch and cuddle. I didn't kiss him until we were actually boyfriend and girlfriend though. We both believed in God, but we didn't put God in our relationship at all. Honestly we didn't really 'date'. I mean sure we were a couple, but we never spent time just the two of us, we were always with our big group of friends.
With my second boyfriend (this was in college) we did talk about God, but we never put him into our relationship. I'm sure that's why I never got that much into either of them. I mean I ended both of them and the reason why was becuz I wasnt' feeling for the guy what he was feeling for me. I couldn't put myself all into it becuz I hadn't figured out who I was myself or where I was at with God. I know now that when I enter another relationship I need to bring God into it with me. You obviously have figured that one out before you even started which is so amazing.
I don't think there is anything wrong with having physical contact with the guy that you are dating. It doesn't say anywhere in the Bible that you aren't allowed to touch the opposite sex. It does very clearly state that your body is a temple and that you must protect it. I think that each person has to figure out they can handle. Everyone has a point they know they can safetly go to without it snowballing out of control. I was at a conference once where they had a panel of youth up talking about how they were able to have relationships with each other and not have sex (they were all couples on the panel). There was one couple that said they learned that they couldn't be alone together at night becuz they were too tempted. So they would make sure someone else was in the house with them, or they would go out with other people. Obviously everyone wouldn't have that problem. I spent many evenings alone with my boyfriend in my dorm room and all we ever did was kiss. It never even came up that we should go any farther than that.
I'm totally rambling and not making much of a point.
I have so many points I could make about saving sex for marriage, but you don't need to hear any of them. You've got a good head on your shoulders. You are very intuned to what it is that God is okay for you to do. Just never lose faith in that and you'll be fine. I'm glad you were able to talk things out with Tim's mom. That just goes to show how mature you are about all this. A lot of teenagers wouldn't be willing to do that.
There are other things that have been said that I kinda want to comment on, but I'm so late to the conversation that it's kinda already over so I won't go there.
I just wanted to post to encourage
aliasjunkie4ever. The choices you are making in your life are really cool. I hope I get the chance to get to know you better and talk with you. But in the mean time
Way to go girl!
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