Hey- to be honest reporting this as rape sounds extreme and a little irresponsible- they haven't even slept together yet and its a decision that is extremely personal and between them. it doesn't sound like he is forcing her into anything, and if she is in a relationship with this guy she must like him, yes she is underage, but underage sex happens everywhere (try living in the UK- legal limit is 16 and still people don't wait!)
I think you're heart is in the right place, and you're only trying to protect her, but it really is her decision- you can't dictate her life, least of all when and to who she loses her virginity to.
i don't think she'd appreciate it at all if this was reported as rape- she would be embarrased, in trouble, and probably wouldn't thank you for it. Try to see it from her perspective- she thinks she loves this guy and feels ready for the next step- so what she's underage- age is just a number- what it comes down to is how mature and responsible she is- as long as they use protection and she doesn't allow herself to be pressured- and she feels ready in herself- theres not a problem- so don't make one.
sorry if this sounds harsh, and i know you're only trying to look out for your friend. buti think by doing this your overstepping a boundary, and seriously risking you friendship
ETA: just out of interest, doesnt it bother you that your lying about rape??
i mean, its a really serious, devastating issue, and in effect your manipulating peoples response to it bacause you don't agree with what your freind is doing. Sorry, but i think this is wrong.
ETA2: ok sorry mel, just read the statutory rape part, so not actually as 'serious' as i thought. sorry i was abit harsh.
but i still think that its better you speak to her about your feelings instead of taking it into your own hands-- in the end its up to her.
unless you have reason to believe he is hurting her, in which case you should really speak to an adult, maybe a teacher, to get some advice- then it'd be serious.
suzie
ETA3: ok- heres my humble advice (if you still want it after i went off on one
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why do you suspect he is abusing her: physically- are there any bruises??
mentally ; has her personality changed in a major way as a result of him- ie- has she withdrawn, become less outgoing etc
if there are bruises, then ask her where she got them- if she gives some reason that seems lame to you, then keep an eye on it, maybe talk to your parents/ older sibling for their advice, without naming names.
if you are good friends with her (it sounds like you are as your very concerned) then you should be able to talk about her relationship.
The thing is, if she is aware of your distaste for her boyfriend, she may be less comfortable speaking with you about it, especially if she has to confide something negative about it, ie-abuse, as you didn't support the relationship to start with.
therefore, if its not too late, don't reveal your TRUE feelings about 'john' to her- she may not thank you for it (blinded by love yada yada...)- allow her to know you're there for her no matter what and she is more likely to confide in you about everything.