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GIRLS and guys I NEED HELP

Discussion in 'Open Chat' started by Xtremelimits08, May 29, 2003.

  1. Xtremelimits08

    Xtremelimits08 Rocket Ranger

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    OK i need help and i need it now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    how can i find out if he is cheating without him finding out??????????
     
  2. AgentNicBristow

    AgentNicBristow Rocket Ranger

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    well, do you actually have evidence he is? or just think he is...
     
  3. vaughnmyangel

    vaughnmyangel Rocket Ranger

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    spy!!! lol no dont do that....ask him? or talk to him? you can usually blatanlty see if someone is lying...or casually hint at it???? maybe that is not such an great idea....
     
  4. Scarlet Crystal

    Scarlet Crystal Bibbity Rabbity

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    do u think he's cheating?

    ask around.
     
  5. feeling_like_a_spy

    feeling_like_a_spy Rocket Ranger

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    just don't do anything behind his back. it can create stress on your relationship
     
  6. Scarlet Crystal

    Scarlet Crystal Bibbity Rabbity

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    asking isn't behind his back i'd say. but what do i know?
     
  7. aliasjgfanaticmv

    aliasjgfanaticmv Rocket Ranger

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    Well...if you ask him he can always deny it. Ask his friends....maybe ask the girl you think he's cheating on you with. Or just threaten him ^_^
     
  8. Aliasgirl47

    Aliasgirl47 Rocket Ranger

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    i couldn't say anything until you gave more details, sorry...
     
  9. Aliasgirl47

    Aliasgirl47 Rocket Ranger

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    it's true, the girl wouldn't lie b/c then she would be being cheated on too, so of course she would be glad to confirm it...
     
  10. Scarlet Crystal

    Scarlet Crystal Bibbity Rabbity

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    if u know of a suspicious girl pretend to her that u broke up w/ him and then talk w/ her. if she thinks u backed down she'll say anything.
     
  11. aliasjgfanaticmv

    aliasjgfanaticmv Rocket Ranger

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    well actually, if you pretend to break up with him, (lets say she IS the girl if he IS cheating on you) then he probably would have told her that you two broke up. So then wouldn't she be suspicious? Also, I doubt a girl would want to be in a relationship where the guy is dating someone else, so maybe she'd say something anyway. (Yes yes, I know there are women who cheat on their boyfriends or husbands with other men who are involved with other people and they don't care :rolleyes: just humor me)
     
  12. Scarlet Crystal

    Scarlet Crystal Bibbity Rabbity

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    yea. and then my plan wouldn't work. :confused: UNLESS u make it look sudden and find "evidence" of your point to show the girl. then she would pity you and then later tell you STUFF ^_^ o whatever forget it
     
  13. alias8000

    alias8000 Rocket Ranger

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    Um, sorry, can't really say much. What other ppl have said seems to be pretty good.
     
  14. Existentialist

    Existentialist Entertainment Moderator

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    I'd say, just ask him. Be direct, but not confrontational. I wouldn't ask his friends... they'd obviously report back to him what you said, and that never has good results. If you think you know the girl who he's cheating with, you could ask her too. But I'd be more than 90% sure before going to her. Unless you're really brave...
    I don't want to sound harsh here, but even if your suspicions are false, the fact that you've got the feeling that he's cheating is a problem, 'cause it means that your trust in him is wavering. And, in my opinion and experience, a relationship with little to no trust is detrimental to the health of both people involved. Two summers ago, I went out with this guy who I couldn't really trust (I mean, he gave this female friend of his a massage while I was just sitting there, at this party one of his friends was having... he just left me, all alone, not knowing anyone, while he rubbed the back of this girl for like an HOUR...)... I kept thinking he was cheating on me (probably with massage girl... he never gave me a massage like that! :rolleyes: ). I almost went crazy.
     
  15. Xtremelimits08

    Xtremelimits08 Rocket Ranger

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    ok i asked him to day and he hesitated<can't spell it>
    so i asked his friend and he kept like saying stuff but not finishing his sentences!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    he always says he has soccer but i checked and he doesn't.
    the only reason i started wondering was because this girl came up and told me she saw him with someone else. But i don't know her very well all i know is that she has a big crush on Jason. and at first i refused to believe it but then i put two and two together and if he was cheating he is doing a very good job at hidding it

    can anyone help now???????????
     
  16. feeling_like_a_spy

    feeling_like_a_spy Rocket Ranger

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    hmmmm.. acting suspicious, eh? (canadian stuff..) well i don't think spying would be good. if he somehow found out, he's going to be mad at you for it, yadda yadda, loooooong story. if he's creating dumb excuses that don't make sense, talk to him. have a "quiet" session with him and discuss things over. and always remember to not lose eye contact with him when talking.
     
  17. Aliasgirl47

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    umm, sorry to say, but it definately sounds like cheating to me...
     
  18. aliasjgfanaticmv

    aliasjgfanaticmv Rocket Ranger

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    I'd ask the girl, and I agree, spying won't help, it'd just make things worse.
     
  19. Princess Jeanie

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    if you even THINK he's cheating, that's a bad sign already...kinda the trust issue thing. i'd first trust that gut feeling. so, you asked him and he lied about the soccer thing? that's not good either. i think that maybe talking to him one more time may be a good idea...other than that, there's not much you can do.

    i really hope this turns out good for you, sometimes breaking up and moving on is the best (as much as it hurts)...good luck...

    ~Princess :king:
     
  20. Kristina

    Kristina Rocket Ranger

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    In my opinion you should sit him down and ask him. Be really serious though, if he sees that it is really bothering you he probably fess up. Tell him that if your relationship is going to last you have to be honest with eachother. Sorry babe but it sounds like he is cheating, of course i don't know him or how he acts around you so your guess is as good as mine. You have to be sure before accusing him of anything though. Good luck sweety, i hope you two work it out.
     

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