Dear AllAlias.com Community

[mystery_chick]

Well that's the thing.

I used to love this community...

so what made it change other than the 'other people' ? I mean sure, you might have disliked or even hated some other members but is it that difficult to ignore them?
--mandy

not when they attack you in posts and pms and AIM...a lot has taken place offline...i guess thats why people dont understand this whole thing...

I thought you could block people on AIM and MSN :blink: I mean, I dont' know much about you, because I rarely go into the members lounge... (hmmm i wonder why... -_- ) but I do still have a great friendship with Jo (speaking of which I should pm her or e-mail her) I mean if you have a problem with the posts and PM why didn't you contact an admin or mod?
--Mandy

Because I'm not gonna be a little tattle-tale...it's pathetic and immature...



Has Jo talked to you about any of this?? She's as pissed off as we are...she's the top poster on our new site :lol:

How would saving the community be immature?

because look at what happend the other times we tried to tell people about liars...Ally...people hated us after we tried to let everyone know she lied...even you wouldn't believe us Charlie...nothing good ever came of going to the admins with a problem with one of the members...

Now that's a problem I need to solve if people don't feel like coming to the admins is reasonable way to solve problems.

BUT: Since people were directly attacking and flaming you, couldn't you have come to us then?

I guess so but I still just didn't think you'd care...i dunno -_-...usually you guys dont do anything about that kind of stuff unless its some new member who did nothing but flame...

And that's why we're looking for new mods. We're trying to do the best we can but it's hard. We all have different lives and our schedules can't always fit in everything. Things can get out of hand but I'm sure if you PM three or four adminsp/mods I'm sure that Someone will get back to you.

--Mandy

 

[SydB_JenG]

i love the people that i met on here...they all mean a great deal to me...but we have our own site now where we talk and we dont need aa and all it's "baggage"


But it's not loss of friendliness...it's lying...but our new site is quite friendly and we're all planning on visiting each other...i mean...we're all the best friends anyone has ever seen...and I'm really grateful that aa brought these people in my lives...but...the bad is starting to outweigh the good here...its not worth it...


Why can't people just be honest...

About a year ago, a similarly major thing happened to SD-1, where at the time I was very active. It split the very active members apart, and many of the (then) top posters left and started their own community. I've always hoped to prevent such a thing at AA, but it happened anyways, although from a different type of source.

I don't see why AA can't become friendly again. I hope you come back in a couple of months and see if things are better

There are just so many bad memories with this site...and I dunno...it might seem pathetic so some of you but people I was really close to betrayed me...Wikky and I would talk to each other 12 hours a day everyday...we were never without each other except at school...and even then we'd sneak to talk to each other in classes...and...when he betrayed me...it was like...knives...everywhere...i couldn't stand it...and then Ally...we were at the point where we would talk on the phone to each other...and then i find out everything she said to Jo, Siri, and I was a complete lie ...that was...undescribable...i wanted to commit suicide...someone i loved so much lied about everything to me and made me worry for her day and night over a bunch of lies...that was the worst (i know she's a member of the site but I have textual evidence from aim convos and msn convos that prove she lied...so i dont care what anyone says...she LIED)...and then Natalie...and then 2 people I won't name because that will just bring more contention to the site if i mention them...and now Moriel and Betha...and then after we left old friends i had always been nice to flaming me...i dunno...i just need to leave all this behind...i dont want to risk coming back to AA and getting hurt the same way...nothing is worse the chance of it happening again...

I'm sorry to say this but Welcome to the internet. There will be lying, maybe it shouldn't been to the extent of where it hurt you that much, but you gotta prepare yourself. You can't let all of this get to you. Personally AA is really important to me. I can barely survive a day where I dont' come on but this will be what this is. No site will be perfect and this is especially why I despise (and i'm sorry to say this Charlie but it's true) the Member's Lounge. I mean I've heard bits about what Happened with Ally and yes I know it's terrible but realize this. If you start to lie online, you're going to have to go with it. and eventually like what they always say, it's gonna get bigger and bigger. Until a point where it just can't last anymore. and that's what I think happened here. I mean sure, I've said a couple untruthful things on here, but that's to protect me personally, but I've never lied about not liking something. and on a site like this where there are all kinds of people and you're gonna meet other people it's going to be hard.
--Mandy

This is what I'm picking up from that post...

It's ok to lie because everyone does it...we should just throw honesty out the window

No, that's not what I mean. I'm sure you were not 100% honest about your personal life while you were on this board. It's hard to be. You dont' want to tell every single details about your life to someone you have not even seen. I dont' know if that's how it is with you, but it sure as hell is with me. I'm not saying that doing something that Ally have done (that's only from what I've heard btw. I'm not bad mouthing you Ally if you ever read this, sorry. ) is justifiable, but you gotta realized not everything can be true. To some people there's a limit to how deep they can share on the internet. -_-
--Mandy

well okay...i was naive for believing her...but thats just me...im trusting...(not so much anymore after all thats happened)...but it still doesnt change the fact that it hurt like hell...and changed my life... -_-

 

[SpyGurl001]

I've been on AA for about a year and at the beginning it was a lot of fun it was very personalbe.  But once the site got REALLY big (thats not a bad thing) but many of the members forum cliques or groups ( like the Insano Family and others * also not bad*) but it left out the other members of AA that weren't as active or apart of it those groups then when other members that were more active in the community were in the other groups they fought so in the Member Lounge I posted less and even quit coming for about a couple of months and it seems its really hard to get back into the old habits of the community I really don't know how to help but I really will try my best to help if ppl get any ideas

~KM

:lol: The Insano Family is just a mess It was just something to use for writing fanfiction in the Odd thread....but then...i dunno...people turned it into a club...:blink:

Well I really didn't mean to direct everything toward the Insano Thread its just that thread and other threads like it have had problems and thats where most ppl are flamed and other type of criticism.

~KM

 

[SydB_JenG]

its time for alias :lol: But i'd like to finish this later...-_-

 

[Existentialist]

Actually, I don't think I've ever lied on this board. I mean, I haven't been going around telling every single little detail of my life... but I haven't lied.

Small lies like name and location I can understand. But there have been a few big lies... :blink: And all the drama... that is the reason why I'm leaving. I don't hate anyone... I haven't got the energy to hate people offline. But all this drama. I don't know if it's because I'm older than most of the posters in the member lounge, but it all just gives me a headache.

 

[mystery_chick]

i love the people that i met on here...they all mean a great deal to me...but we have our own site now where we talk and we dont need aa and all it's "baggage"


But it's not loss of friendliness...it's lying...but our new site is quite friendly and we're all planning on visiting each other...i mean...we're all the best friends anyone has ever seen...and I'm really grateful that aa brought these people in my lives...but...the bad is starting to outweigh the good here...its not worth it...


Why can't people just be honest...

About a year ago, a similarly major thing happened to SD-1, where at the time I was very active. It split the very active members apart, and many of the (then) top posters left and started their own community. I've always hoped to prevent such a thing at AA, but it happened anyways, although from a different type of source.

I don't see why AA can't become friendly again. I hope you come back in a couple of months and see if things are better

There are just so many bad memories with this site...and I dunno...it might seem pathetic so some of you but people I was really close to betrayed me...Wikky and I would talk to each other 12 hours a day everyday...we were never without each other except at school...and even then we'd sneak to talk to each other in classes...and...when he betrayed me...it was like...knives...everywhere...i couldn't stand it...and then Ally...we were at the point where we would talk on the phone to each other...and then i find out everything she said to Jo, Siri, and I was a complete lie ...that was...undescribable...i wanted to commit suicide...someone i loved so much lied about everything to me and made me worry for her day and night over a bunch of lies...that was the worst (i know she's a member of the site but I have textual evidence from aim convos and msn convos that prove she lied...so i dont care what anyone says...she LIED)...and then Natalie...and then 2 people I won't name because that will just bring more contention to the site if i mention them...and now Moriel and Betha...and then after we left old friends i had always been nice to flaming me...i dunno...i just need to leave all this behind...i dont want to risk coming back to AA and getting hurt the same way...nothing is worse the chance of it happening again...

I'm sorry to say this but Welcome to the internet. There will be lying, maybe it shouldn't been to the extent of where it hurt you that much, but you gotta prepare yourself. You can't let all of this get to you. Personally AA is really important to me. I can barely survive a day where I dont' come on but this will be what this is. No site will be perfect and this is especially why I despise (and i'm sorry to say this Charlie but it's true) the Member's Lounge. I mean I've heard bits about what Happened with Ally and yes I know it's terrible but realize this. If you start to lie online, you're going to have to go with it. and eventually like what they always say, it's gonna get bigger and bigger. Until a point where it just can't last anymore. and that's what I think happened here. I mean sure, I've said a couple untruthful things on here, but that's to protect me personally, but I've never lied about not liking something. and on a site like this where there are all kinds of people and you're gonna meet other people it's going to be hard.
--Mandy

This is what I'm picking up from that post...

It's ok to lie because everyone does it...we should just throw honesty out the window

No, that's not what I mean. I'm sure you were not 100% honest about your personal life while you were on this board. It's hard to be. You dont' want to tell every single details about your life to someone you have not even seen. I dont' know if that's how it is with you, but it sure as hell is with me. I'm not saying that doing something that Ally have done (that's only from what I've heard btw. I'm not bad mouthing you Ally if you ever read this, sorry. ) is justifiable, but you gotta realized not everything can be true. To some people there's a limit to how deep they can share on the internet. -_-
--Mandy

well okay...i was naive for believing her...but thats just me...im trusting...(not so much anymore after all thats happened)...but it still doesnt change the fact that it hurt like hell...and changed my life... -_-

It was not naivity. We try to trust people. We WANT to, but in this world, (espeically on the internet) it's going to be hard. It's never easy. You shouldn't be any less trust because you got burned once, or twice, or even a thousand times. You should try to protect yourself better, and that doesnt' mean you're not gonna get burned again because I know you will.

This like these do change your life but look at it in a positive way. You have found Siri, and Nance, and Bobo, and Jo and SO many others that you can talk to, doesn't that outweigh the bad?
--Mandy

 

[Chanel]

look you guys ... I love AA, and i don't like seing it fall apart. it's like my second home.

It's my first home. ^_^

mine too.. i mena you guys ar emy friends... i come to u wehn im in a fight ithmy paretns etc. i love all of u guys.. eeryone ehre...

now alias si on ill see you guys,,. hopefully this will eb resolved... i dont want to seeanyone else go

 

[mystery_chick]

I've been on AA for about a year and at the beginning it was a lot of fun it was very personalbe.  But once the site got REALLY big (thats not a bad thing) but many of the members forum cliques or groups ( like the Insano Family and others * also not bad*) but it left out the other members of AA that weren't as active or apart of it those groups then when other members that were more active in the community were in the other groups they fought so in the Member Lounge I posted less and even quit coming for about a couple of months and it seems its really hard to get back into the old habits of the community I really don't know how to help but I really will try my best to help if ppl get any ideas

~KM

:lol: The Insano Family is just a mess It was just something to use for writing fanfiction in the Odd thread....but then...i dunno...people turned it into a club...:blink:

Well I really didn't mean to direct everything toward the Insano Thread its just that thread and other threads like it have had problems and thats where most ppl are flamed and other type of criticism.

~KM

Well then maybe we shouldn't have threads like the Insao Families and the Anti-Earth threads. Would that make this stop?
--Mandy

 

[vaughnandsydney]

Thanks Charlie for writing that awesome letter. I think it echoes what a lot of us members are thinking.

 

[mystery_chick]

I'll be back. I feel like Watching Alias Again, Please everyone. I'm BEGGING YOU don't let this get out of hand too. PLEASE No more BASHING. This is a really bad ending to a good day
--Mandy

 

[Betha Bristow]

I'll PM you or Charlie is anything happens.. -_-

 

[mystery_chick]

okay, but the thread will be here when I get back.
--Mandy

 

[bluheart13]

This is all getting messed up....I mean Im not sure how all of this happened....it used to be so peaceful here...but now its like turned into a war zone

 

[vaughnandsydney]

Well then maybe we shouldn't have threads like the Insao Families and the Anti-Earth threads. Would that make this stop?
--Mandy

I think this might be a step in the right direction. Have fun watching Alias, Mandy!

 

[Betha Bristow]

I dont think it would make it stop.. but ok :blink:

 

[mystery_chick]

Well then maybe we shouldn't have threads like the Insao Families and the Anti-Earth threads. Would that make this stop?
--Mandy

I think this might be a step in the right direction. Have fun watching Alias, Mandy!

See that would be a good ideal situation, but I don't want AA to be like a Jail. I want everyone to be able to do things so they can have fun. That's what AA's for. But if people are seriously going to get hurt by this then... *sigh* anyways off to watch Alias I think the Commercial's over -_-
--Mandy

 

[Betha Bristow]

I dont think the threads like Anti-earth and Insano Family have anything to do with it.. Everyone is always welcome in any thread so I dont see why it would contribute to fighting but thats just me

 

[vaughnandsydney]

I know what you mean, Mandy. I've been on boards where the mods totally controlled everything that was being posted..like for instance, you couldn't start threads such as one about Alias because it wasn't an Alias board even though it was posted in the off-topic board. Anyways, I am going off on a tangent here. Sorry!

 

[mystery_chick]

I dont think the threads like Anti-earth and Insano Family have anything to do with it.. Everyone is always welcome in any thread so I dont see why it would contribute to fighting but thats just me

So YOU tell ME what happend here cause it obviously didn't popped out of thin air! -_-
--mandy

 

[AliasHombre]

I just want to say something here.

AllAlias used to be a great community filled with great people that are tied together by a common passion and love for Alias.

And it is no way your fault Charlie because all you've done is work hard for this site and I thank you for that. But many of the members left because of certain other members who just don't know the line when to act immaturely in a fun way and then in a disrespectful, lying b**** ass way. :lol: sorry bout that, it's the only way I can phrase it.

Anyways... I did have a great time on this site, met so many wonderful people but unfortunetly things change and sometimes they'll never go back to the way it used to.

Thanks for hard work Charlie.

I second that!

yep

I agree -_-